1.What exactly is a play party/temple party?

 

At its heart, a play party/temple party is a gathering where people explore connection, touch, and intimacy in a supportive, consensual environment. It’s not a free-for-all or a place where you’re expected to “do” anything. Instead, it’s a space for you to define your own experience—whether that’s enjoying a deep conversation, watching the energy in the room unfold, or exploring your sensuality with others. Every party is unique, but the essence is about celebrating choice and connection.

4.What should I wear?

 

The answer depends on what makes you feel comfortable and radiant. Some people arrive in cozy robes or loose layers they can adjust throughout the night, while others lean into lingerie, playful costumes, or even just simple, sexy outfits. If the event has a theme, you might want to incorporate that. And remember, wearing what helps you feel confident is the best dress code.

7.Is the event safe?

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Safety isn’t just a priority; it’s the cornerstone of any well-organized play party/temple party. Hosts and facilitators often vet attendees, outline clear rules, and remain present throughout the evening to ensure the space stays consensual and supportive. Many events also provide safer sxx supplies, like condoms and gloves, to encourage healthy practices. 

What if I see someone I know?

This happens from time to time, and it’s not as awkward as you might imagine. Chances are, they’re here for the same reasons you are, and discretion is a shared value in these spaces. If you feel comfortable, a quick smile or “Fancy seeing you here!” can lighten the mood. If not, you’re not obligated to interact—most people focus on their own experience and respect others’ privacy.

2.Do I have to participate in anything?

 

Not at all. Think of this as a “choose your own adventure” experience. You can simply observe, mingle, or participate in activities that feel aligned with your boundaries and desires. There’s no obligation to do anything beyond showing up as yourself. Sometimes just being present in the energy of the space is an enriching experience all on its own.

5. Can I come alone, or is this more of a couples thing?

 

You are welcome to come solo, with a partner, or even as part of a group. Many people attend alone and find the space designed to encourage connection, whether it’s through structured icebreakers, games, or organic conversations. If you’re feeling nervo15us, know you’re not alone—showing up solo can often lead to some of the most rewarding connections. 

8.Will I feel awkward or out of place as a first-timer?

 

Feeling nervous is normal, but you’re not alone. Most attendees have been first-timers themselves and remember what it’s like. Observing, mingling, or starting a conversation with some one without pressure.

3.What are the rules and guidelines?

 

The foundation of every play party/temple party is consent and respect. The main guidelines are:

• Always ask before initiating any type of touch—whether it’s a hug, a shoulder squeeze, or anything more intimate.
• A “no” should always be accepted with grace, no explanations needed.
• Consent is active, ongoing, and enthusiastic—assumptions have no place here.
• We have an entire welcome circle where we go over agreements that we will all agree to and keep for the duration of the event
• If you’re unsure about how something works, ask the hosts or organizers—they’re here to help.

6.How do I set boundaries without feeling awkward?

 

Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect—and it’s deeply respected in these spaces. A simple, “No, thank you” or “I’m not comfortable with that” is perfect. If someone doesn’t respect your boundary (which is rare), the hosts are there to support you. These events celebrate the art of saying “no” just as much as saying “yes.”

9.How do I connect with others?

 

Start small: a smile, a compliment, or even a casual, “How’s your evening going so far?” works wonders. Many people also appreciate direct communication, like, “Hi, I’m new to this—what’s been your favorite part of the evening?” Connection doesn’t have to mean jumping straight into play; it’s often about finding someone whose energy feels aligned with yours.